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My Limiting Beliefs

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Often times as women on the Internet, I think we hide our insecurities. We hide what makes us feel 'less than' and what we're struggling with. We think it'll make us feel better if we just try to conform and act like everything is all good.

But I think this is really damaging to our culture as women and to the culture of the Internet.

If we just allow the "picture of perfection" to be the norm and we forget to have the tough conversations, we'll never be able to really feel real.

And if you know me in real life, you know there isn't anything I dislike more than FAKE.

Today I wanted to share MY limiting beliefs with you. These are stupid little things that hold me back every single day from doing the things that feel right in my heart. (Not cool, ya know?) These are things that I tell myself stories about and use as excuses as to why not.

So, here we go:

1. My couch

Literally, I have not done so many things I wanted to do because my couch isn't pretty enough. Never mind the fact that we should probably just buy a new couch - this couch is so ugly that it looks horrible in pictures and on video. As a visual person, I know this and I avoid sharing parts of my life on social media because of it. I avoid using my living room as a setting for filming even though I feel like it would be more personable to do so.

2. My fingernails

I have been a nail biter since I was three years old. I have struggled with this nasty habit my entire life. And when I say "nail biter," I don't mean it in the cute "I bite my nails just a little bit" kind of way. I mean, I bite them all the way down until there's barely a nail left and then I do it again and again and again. This stops me from sharing selfies in the mirror and sharing certain things because I'm afraid someone will see my nails and think it's gross and not take me seriously or unfollow me.

3. Where I Live

I don't live in some major creative blogger city. I live in a small town in Wisconsin, not even really in the city. That has meant for me that there are less "interesting" places to photograph and that I feel like I have less to share - that I'm not "cool enough."

4. My Unconventional Story

I didn't just go to college and then meet someone and then start a business and do it "like everybody else." Everything about my story feels different than "the norm." When I was 19, I was pregnant and by the age of 25, I had two kids and a Bachelor's Degree. While some may say that that's impressive, for me it's always meant that I don't even really know what it's like to be an adult without children. It's meant that I've always had to work harder to have people take me seriously. It's meant that I'm not always as comfortable sharing about my life for fear of being judged. 

I'm hoping that by starting this conversation, other people will feel free to share their limiting beliefs too and feel a sense of freedom when we are able to see others struggle with similar things or when we are just able to say them out loud. I'm not saying we have to do anything about these limiting beliefs except let them go out in the wild and see what happens.

So, there you go. Those are four of my main limiting beliefs. I have no doubt there are more. If you feel so inclined to share yours, will you send a link to me? Send it to my DMs at @jaimieemyers and we can stand strong together in making the Internet a less intimidating place to be. 

So, what am I gonna do about it? I'm going to start small. I'm going to try to get comfortable with sharing my life more openly despite all of these things that stop me from that.

Hold me accountable if you're reading this, friend. I'll always do the same for you.

Live Out Loud Live with Brooke Thomas

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A few weeks ago, I had the opportunity to travel to Palm Beach for a conference for work -- Burn Media Co. sponsored the event I was also in attendance at the Live Out Loud Live conference to do the live social media for the event and to speak!

I'll be honest, I went into this conference not really knowing what to expect! Even though I designed the programs and knew the itinerary, I had never been to a women's conference like this before, especially for 3 days!

I could tell by the very first few minutes that I got there that I was in the right place. I was welcomed with hugs and smiles and lots to do! I was certainly kept *very* busy during this event.

It's hard to describe this event to other people because it's not quite a conference and not quite a party. It's got the best of both worlds. We danced, we learned, we empowered each other and we heard from incredible speakers like Tiffany Smiley, Marshawn Evans Daniels, and Lisa Bevere, among others. I was seriously BLOWN AWAY by how confident and strong these women were on stage. I definitely aspire to get my speaking skills to this level.

I cried many times. Happy tears. Nervous tears. Sad tears. Honestly, all the tears.

There were several fleeting moments that hit me right in the gut.

I was sure to dip my toes in the sand, enjoy the chocolates left on my pillow, and indulge in a little bit of room service, and even a lunch alone (I highly recommend everyone do this once in a while - how nice it is to just eat at your own pace and live with your own thoughts).

I left The Breakers feeling like I had a lot of heavy on my heart, but in the good way. The good way where you know something good is bubbling up. When you know that you're going to need to reflect, write it out, and then act.

And that's why I'm writing this. Because I need to write and exercise creativity. Even though I am often able to do this in my everyday "j-o-b", I need to do it just for me. And I need to use what I know to help others express their creativity. I need an outlet. Where that outlet will take me, I don't know, but I've put off having a personal space like this for far too long.

It's funny - I was just talking to my husband about this - how when I went into journalism, I had decided to enter that school because I wanted to be a "travel writer." That quickly changed because they don't really teach you how to do that in college. They teach you how to write press releases and buy media. I hope that the tides are changing and that journalism professionals start really focusing on teaching skills for the wide range of career options for young journalists, including social media and blogging! These are real careers now!

Anyway, I digress. I got away from my passions a little bit and that happens in life, but I want to make sure that I'm fulfilling this part of me too, so that's why I'm blogging again.

I hope that this blog will be interesting to you too! I'll be writing about my everyday life, favorite things, places I go, things I eat.. basically, you'll get a glimpse into my life and I hope it will help you to live a healthier, happier, more fun life!