Often times as women on the Internet, I think we hide our insecurities. We hide what makes us feel 'less than' and what we're struggling with. We think it'll make us feel better if we just try to conform and act like everything is all good.
But I think this is really damaging to our culture as women and to the culture of the Internet.
If we just allow the "picture of perfection" to be the norm and we forget to have the tough conversations, we'll never be able to really feel real.
And if you know me in real life, you know there isn't anything I dislike more than FAKE.
Today I wanted to share MY limiting beliefs with you. These are stupid little things that hold me back every single day from doing the things that feel right in my heart. (Not cool, ya know?) These are things that I tell myself stories about and use as excuses as to why not.
So, here we go:
1. My couch
Literally, I have not done so many things I wanted to do because my couch isn't pretty enough. Never mind the fact that we should probably just buy a new couch - this couch is so ugly that it looks horrible in pictures and on video. As a visual person, I know this and I avoid sharing parts of my life on social media because of it. I avoid using my living room as a setting for filming even though I feel like it would be more personable to do so.
2. My fingernails
I have been a nail biter since I was three years old. I have struggled with this nasty habit my entire life. And when I say "nail biter," I don't mean it in the cute "I bite my nails just a little bit" kind of way. I mean, I bite them all the way down until there's barely a nail left and then I do it again and again and again. This stops me from sharing selfies in the mirror and sharing certain things because I'm afraid someone will see my nails and think it's gross and not take me seriously or unfollow me.
3. Where I Live
I don't live in some major creative blogger city. I live in a small town in Wisconsin, not even really in the city. That has meant for me that there are less "interesting" places to photograph and that I feel like I have less to share - that I'm not "cool enough."
4. My Unconventional Story
I didn't just go to college and then meet someone and then start a business and do it "like everybody else." Everything about my story feels different than "the norm." When I was 19, I was pregnant and by the age of 25, I had two kids and a Bachelor's Degree. While some may say that that's impressive, for me it's always meant that I don't even really know what it's like to be an adult without children. It's meant that I've always had to work harder to have people take me seriously. It's meant that I'm not always as comfortable sharing about my life for fear of being judged.
I'm hoping that by starting this conversation, other people will feel free to share their limiting beliefs too and feel a sense of freedom when we are able to see others struggle with similar things or when we are just able to say them out loud. I'm not saying we have to do anything about these limiting beliefs except let them go out in the wild and see what happens.
So, there you go. Those are four of my main limiting beliefs. I have no doubt there are more. If you feel so inclined to share yours, will you send a link to me? Send it to my DMs at @jaimieemyers and we can stand strong together in making the Internet a less intimidating place to be.
So, what am I gonna do about it? I'm going to start small. I'm going to try to get comfortable with sharing my life more openly despite all of these things that stop me from that.
Hold me accountable if you're reading this, friend. I'll always do the same for you.